Dating after divorce for christians
You will see friends get pregnant accidentally, far too young; and watch as it totally stalls and redirects the course of their young life.
You will know somebody who got an abortion, and you’ll see how inconsolably guilt-ridden they are about it.
When you wait until marriage to have sex, you preserve some of your innocence — there’s a whole world of experience that you can still look forward to — and as a result you carry more of your idealism into your adult life.
When you take that extra idealism — that heroic vision for who you can be and what you can achieve — and combine it with your grown-up ability to execute and comprehend, you can do truly great things (if you don’t let the voices of convention talk you into giving up first).
You will see a friend give herself fully to a relationship and be destroyed beyond all repair when the guy turns out to be a shallow jackass, and it was all for nothing.
You will watch as a friend stays trapped in a doomed relationship far past its expiration date — holding him/herself back from moving on and growing — just for the sex.
As you grow older, you will live to see people get shot down in flames.
You will see friends catch awful sexually-transmitted diseases, and you will sense their sudden, inescapable devastation, as if they’ve been branded for life — and they have.
You may destroy and remake the rest of yourself a dozen times during your journey though young-adulthood, but this piece of you…held deep down…stays intact.
It will make you focused on improving yourself at all costs.
It will push you to grow, to mature, to better yourself every day of your life…and to constantly monitor your reasons and intentions.
It’s kind of like the Chicken and the Egg dilemma (which came first?
): People who have big hearts wait until marriage, and people that wait until marriage have big hearts. However you get there, when you wait until marriage you will become (if you are not already) a deeply caring person, who is (often obsessively) concerned with doing the rightest, truest thing that you can think of at all times.And this is one of the greatest benefits of waiting till marriage: you will keep the important parts of yourself alive even as you destroy or change everything else.